I have attended back to back four marriage ceremony and two more is still waiting. I am afraid if I become fatty… lolz… More or less all are the same, same pattern, same smile, and same excitement. The only difference is the actors and actresses. Do we repeat the same things again and again? De we like these repetition? Or we are just afraid of new things. I am afraid, I am afraid of all these things. I am afraid of people, I am afraid of crowd and I am afraid of mass. Sometime I feel this crowd; this mass does not mean anything unless you got a perfect mate. Nobody knows the definition of perfect mate but it exists surely it.
I have few funny philosophies like we all are here for very short period of time. Why should we make it more complicated with such relations? Does it really mean anything in our eternal journey? I know nobody can answer these questions. May be it is mandatory to keep the harmony in the society. Eventually one day I will get married but still I don’t find any good reason except sex. Is it worthy to get married only for sex?
N.B. May be it is true for me but not for you; but the question is do you know which is true for you?
Isn't safe and legal sex a big enough reason to get married?Not every person in this world does get his/her beloved ones or gets to live their life with a person who becomes his beloved. But can any person live without sex ? One way or the other a person has to release the pressure.So, marriage should not be an institution where you get to live with your loved one - not necessarily at least. But it must be an institution where you get laid , whenever you feel like.
ReplyDeleteI know these stories. But my question is why we still stuck with the society as it means nothing to us? Ok, I tell a story on perspective of our society. Mr. X is in love with Miss Y. But the problem is Miss Y is a prostitute. Mr. X went to his parents and told I wanna get married and I will marry Miss Y. He added that everything is alright except Miss Y is a prostitute. Just imagine what could be their response. Lot of things happened after that but Mr. X was at his position. After few days Mr. X’s Sister Mrs. Z came home and said to his brother, “If you marry Miss Y, my husband will divorce me.” Unfortunately I was there at that time and I told Mrs. Z, plz don’t find anyone for Mr. X who will divorce Mr. X if you become prostitute, funny indeed. Just think you get married and your relation does not solely depend on you and your wife, it also depends on the other guys as well. Is this called marriage? I spit on it.
ReplyDeleteFirst thing, this example, though not an impossibility, is extreme. Still the society's acceptance level is too low with regard to these situations. But I have clear doubts whether a guy, who goes to a prostitute for sex, considers love to be the foremost thing to achieve(at first he went to that whore to have sex, not for love, right?). Again, its a matter of trade off. What do you want in your life?You can have happiness by having sex here and there or practicing live together -like craps. Or you can have consistent comfort, by hanging out with just a single person, having legal and safe sex. I do not believe that a person feels comfortable whenever he does a bad thing.May be in course of time, his conscience prohibits him less and less to do such things. The main thing is, we actually do not understand the true meaning of love or happiness. Thats why we mix up things badly.
ReplyDeleteSurely He didn’t go there for love at very first time but eventually he fall in love. I don’t know what is love or happiness but I know my comforts. I know my needs I know my desires and I will never tolerate anyone governs them. “I do not believe that a person feels comfortable whenever he does a bad thing” what do mean by bad things. Is there anything called bad, does it mean anything? This is completely a social propaganda to prohibit you from what it doesn’t want to allow. The word “bad” disappeared from the lexicon at the very first day after the word “society” disappears. Most of the people don’t feel comfort to have illegal sex at Bangladesh but they are comfortable with it at Amsterdam. It is all about society and perspective man no bad no good.
ReplyDeleteYeah, certainly.. That is why I have used a less philosophical word 'comfort' rather than conscience or repentance.I guess the last logic in favor of a social marriage is consistency. I have been brought up in a fair enough environment because my parents had social marriage.So. at least social marriage gotta give us something which we cannot deny. We cannot be that selfless...
ReplyDeleteDoesn’t is sound like escapist? You don’t want to notice the reality only because it put you in identity crisis. I know few guys who are continuing their love-relation more than ten year!!! Surely you know such guys. Isn’t it consistency? Once you get your perfect mate consistency is just matter of time. Society cannot bring the consistency; time has come; peoples are more courageous now they really don’t care about society. Yea, social marriage gives us something we can’t deny. But the question is do we need those things in future days?
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